Christmas. I can’t remember much from my younger years but I didn’t like it for a long time after my parents divorced. Suddenly my family wasn’t “complete” anymore. My birthday is right after the holidays so usually we would celebrate my birthday and Christmas with family on the same day. But since it changed, my birthday would be my main focus of the year to see everyone together in one room..
As this happened while I was young, I was already used to celebrating Christmas separately. We didn’t have contact with my dad for years so it would be only with my grand parents and the other day with my mom, stepdad and his family.
This was the case till a few years ago. I used to travel a lot and I also settled in Sydney for a while but I made sure I was home for this special day. Also I have a boyfriend right now so we divide everything equally. We spend one day at my boyfriends family and the next day it’s for my family. I visit my dad during the day. My grandparents are also there and for dinner we’re at my mom. My mom is used to this situation now as well but I will always make sure I spent it at home.
The contrast is big but interesting. Every couple in my bf’s family has their own task. One provides snacks. The other prepares soul food while the other makes sure my stomach is sore cause yep, most desserts aren’t lactose free. While at my mom, she would take care of us with a home cooked meal.
For present they will play a game – counting a big group of 15 people. While at my family, we just sit down, talk and give each other gifts – with the four of us. And I’m pretty sure this contrast is at many families. One is bigger than the other. But I know we have a big family and sometimes I’m upset that things have changed so drastically.
But, even though it all changed, Christmas will never lose its charm. It will never go out of style. I never underdressed for Christmas. I always saw this as a special get together with our small family and I wanted to dress appropriate. It will never lose its sparkle or its warmth. I never experienced Christmas Day upset or emotional. I always had loved ones around me.
I just focus on what I have. And I’m happy with that. I’m happy I still have my grandpa and grandma around. I know that when I have a family of my own, I’m going to do it differently but for now, I appreciate I still have a family (even if it’s small) and a place to come home to once in a while.
I know some people are missing someone during the holidays. No matter what your situation is, please share the holidays with your family or let them know you’re thinking of them – they will appreciate it. I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas, all the best of luck in life and a Happy New Year!